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Happy Thanksgiving (Toddler STYLE)

11/26/2015

Making food memories and "thankful" memories, because let's face it, sometimes other memories with children on Thanksgiving are just not worth keeping.

(These are real conversations from today from our real and crazy family. The children's names in this post have been purposefully left out to protect them from being harassed by those of you who might know them.)

2:00am
Mom, I don't feel... (insert vomit and more vomit...)
Okay, try to keep your aim into my hands until we get to the toilet.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

4:30am
repeat of 2:00am
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

8:30am
Stop talking! You are waking me up! (insert crying and tears from a healthy child)
Baby, it's okay to get up and come down stairs now. Everyone else is awake.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

8:45am
He's sitting in my chair!! I want my chair!! That's not fair!
You sat there yesterday, it is his turn today.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

9:00am
I don't want yucky toast and grapes for breakfast! It's gross. I told you I just want chocolate.
You need to eat what I give you or else you won't eat anything the rest of the day.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

9:45am
I don't want apple juice! I want milk!
Sweetheart, you just asked me to get you apple juice so that's why I gave it to you. Please don't yell at me.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

10:00am
I don't like this parade. It's too long. When is it going to be over? I want to watch cartoons.
It's the Macy's Thanksgiving Parade. Just watch it. The Ninja Turtle float is about to come on and look at all the ballerina's dancing! .
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

10:30am
Eww! Mom!! I just saw him put his buggers on the couch!
OK, give him this wet towel and tell him to clean them off right now.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

11:00am
What's that yucky smell? Yuck. Everyone hold your nose. It stinks in here.
That's Thanksgiving Dinner is cooking.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

11:45
Mom! I got poop on my hands!
OK, don't move, and don't touch anything! I'll be right there.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

12:00pm
I don't want to play outside. Can't we just come inside to play?
No, you all need to stay outside until dinner is ready. It's so pretty out. It's going to snow soon and you'll be stuck inside for months.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

12:30pm
Grandma Helen, I mean Tori, can I be all done eating?
That is your Nonna. Her name is Nonna. And she is not in charge of how much you eat. You have to finish eating your lunch and then I will dismiss you from the table.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

1:30pm
I'm STARVING!!
You just ate lunch an hour ago and you had a snack 10 minutes ago. You are not hungry. Go outside and play.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

1:00pm
Mommy, I want you to hold me.
I can't hold you while I'm cooking baby, just sit here on the counter and don't touch the knives.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

2:00pm
I don't want to wear this! It has buttons. I want to wear my Halloween costume.
I want you to look nice for Thanksgiving dinner. Please put on what I want you to wear just for today.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

2:30pm
He broke my tower and hurt my feelings!
Come here. Show me where your feelings are so I can kiss them and make it better.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

3:00PM
He hurt my feelings again!
Work it out and go outside and play!!! We are eating in one hour and I don't want to see you until then. You need to play with each other nicely.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING

4:30
I told you not to give me chicken! yuck!
It's ham. You like ham. And your daddy is getting you ranch dressing to dip it in.

Why is this macaroni white? I want the orange kind.                                                                   It's just made with special cheeses and you'll like it if you just try it.

Mommy, I like this, I just want the pretzels out of the jello and separated from the cream.
Baby, I can't take it apart. Just eat it the way it is.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING

4:45
*I am thankful for my family and my friends but mostly my family. And for batman and for legos. I am thankful for thanksgiving and for loving people and for helping people too. I am thankful for my lego table, but I want it to be a train table again. I am thankful for Nonna and Grandma Helen and Papa Claude and Papi and Tori and for Aunt Cathy and all of my cousins. And I am thankful for orphans because they can all come to live with us.

*I am thankful for my mom and dad and my room. I am thankful for love. I am thankful for loving people. I am thankful for giving people stuff and for having a twin. I am thankful for my family, for my toys and for my school and my car and my house and for love. I am mostly thankful for love and loving people and having a loving family.

*I am thankful for my family and farts and burps too (insert laughter from all the kids here). I am thankful for Nonna and the movie Inside Out. I am thankful for all my family and cousins and my grandparents. I am thankful for my mommy. I am thankful for my family being together and for everyone that helps each other and gives to people.

*I am thankful for Curious George and all the bulldozers in the whole world and for my mom and dad and for my turtle, Lucky.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

I couldn't be more thankful for my family.
All of my family.
The vomit and the poop and the tears and the whining.
Much of it, I'd like to forget but it doesn't mean I'm not thankful for it all.
I am extremely thankful for the sweetness, the tenderness, the humor and the love that my family is full of.
I am thankful that we serve an awesome God and in his likeness we serve each other.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING FROM OUR CRAZY FAMILY TO YOURS.

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Eggnog Pancakes

11/21/2015

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My husband made fun of me the other day when I came home from the grocery store with Eggnog. He made some comment like "Welcome to 'November', the season on Eggnog" As to say that you are really not supposed to buy eggnog until December.

But everyone knows a month of December is not enough for eggnog. There should be at least two months we are permitted to drink eggnog and make all kinds of eggnog goodies. It's kinda like the pumpkin craze in October that carries into November and December! Eggnog should have it's time too!

And so, I decided to make Eggnog Pancakes

And I can promise you my husband was no longer complaining about me buying Eggnog in November. It's no Betty Crocker kind of recipe. It's straight from the box with a few minor adjustments! I hope you enjoy! I know my family did because there are none left to share!

Here is what you will need: 3 Ingredients

1. 3 cups of Pankcake mix.
(Anything you have in your pantry will do. Otherwise, if you are looking for a good mix inexpensive mix, I buy mine at Target. It's $2.12 per box and then I get my 5% off by using my Target Card! )
2. 2 cups of Eggnog
(I like the real Eggnog. Nothing that has artificial sugars or non-fat crap. And it's always cheaper when you buy the store brand.
3. 1 cup of Chocolate Chips
(Let's face it, chocolate chips make everything better! But let's also be real about how expensive they are lately....Everywhere. So I buy mine from Costco in a huge bag for about $8.00 and they last a while. I put them in the kids muffins, yogurt, and obviously pancakes too. With Chocolate Chips, I do not substitute for the off brand. They are no good. Always get Tollhouse. They are the best! If you find the mini's, they are even better!

Directions

1. Follow mixing directions on the back of the pancake mix box. Except where it calls for water or milk, substitute Eggnog in it's place. For example, if box calls for 2 cups of water, use 2 cups of eggnog instead.
If the box does not call for any eggs, you can still add one. It'll make your pancakes extra fluffy, as will the eggnog.

2. I pour my mix into a cupcake batter dispenser or also called a cupcake pen. If you do not own one of these you should buy one right now! They are amazing for pancakes or the like. My kids love pancakes and these help make all pancakes fun. You can make animals, letters, number and other things so easily! Even if you are just doing circles, they come out even and perfect every time!

3. If you are using a griddle, set it for 325. If only take a second to warm up and use your dispenser pen to make circular pancakes.

4. Place two or three chocolate chips on each pancake while it is cooking. One the top of the batter starts to form little bubbles, flip pancake to chocolate chip side down. Only leave down on the chocolate chip side for about 30 seconds before using a spatula to scoop up and put on a warm plate.

5. I like to stack the pancakes as they come off the hot griddle so they keep each other warm. The only problem I have is that my kids don't wait for breakfast to be served, They immediately start steeling warm pancakes off my stacks and by the time I'm finished baking all the batter, the pancakes are nearly gone!

The reason why I put chocolate chips in pancakes

For many breakfasts I have made pancakes and used syrup or honey for dipping sauce. With a two year old, two four year olds and a six year old, syrup and honey end up everywhere. All over my table, all in the hair and if it is a school day then we would spend time getting syrup and honey out of hair. It drove me nuts.

So I switched to plain pancakes and I started to spread a bit of Nutella or Peanut Butter on each pancake and served them that way. Well, I had no luck with that. I ended up getting peanut butter and chocolate all over the kids hair, hands and faces.

And this is why I landed on putting chocolate chips inside the pancakes. Something about having those little bites of chocolate inside eliminates any need for any kind of dip or spread. No syrup in the hair or peanut butter smeared all over their clothes.

Hope you enjoy some Eggnog Pancakes yourself! If you've made them before or do something different, please comment on your Eggnog Pancake secrets! Or if you try this for the first time, leave me a comment and let me know what you think!

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Mid Century Side Table

11/11/2015

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I got this little cutie today. She was accompanied by two adorable side chairs that I may go back to get another time, but for now she is the only one that came home with me.

She does need refinishing. Although she looks okay in the photo, the top is uneven and looks like someone tried to remove some water stains.

What do you think? Should I refinish her back to her original self? Maybe go for a lighter stain? Or a darker ebony? Should I paint her? I'm about to break out some aqua for a few other pieces. Not sure I can picture this little thing blue, but I definitely can picture her white or grey.

Tell me what you think?? How would you like to see her refinished?

And don't forget to thank a Veteran today! Happy Veterans Day friends!

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Marriage Made of Steel: The Secret to a Happy Marriage

11/10/2015

It's our 11th Wedding Anniversary this month. So the title to this post is fitting because on the 11th year of marriage you are supposed to gift your spouse something of steel.

After 11 years together I'm feeling like our marriage is now made of steel. Not all steel, of course there are lots of other things that make up our marriage. But it has formed and woven together all these years making it strong and sturdy just like steel. So if the proposed 11 year gift is "steel" then we've already got it! (Although, I can think of a few new shiny stainless steel appliances I'd love to have too!)

How we got here: A powerful secret to a happy marriage

As I reflect back on the last 11 years I've stumbled across something and realized it is what has made our marriage work all these years. It has made our marriage stronger all these years.

It is something everyone does but often times are told not to do. More than not it is done incorrectly and can end up ruining a marriage.

It's an essential part of being human but often we refuse to participate in this activity because we don't like it or we are too scared of the outcome or we don't learn how to progress along with it.

But this act is the key to why my husband and I are still married 11 years later.

So what is it you ask? Is it...

Faith in God, surely this is the most important, right?
Lot's of "stripping and priming" (wink wink), yes, that's a big part of it too.
Laughter, is of course a given. You have to have laughter!
Being able to laugh at yourself, also a very important ingredient to a good marriage.
Forgiveness, yes, yes, very important.
Faithfulness, gentleness and self control, we could just add the rest of the Fruits of Spirits here to complete our list.

All the components above are great ways to attain a happy marriage. But something is missing from that list. An act that encompass' everything on the list, but isn't on the list itself. Something that has driven our marriage into incredible depths over the years. Depths in our faith, our intimacy, our laughter and forgiveness, all due to this one thing.

The Real Secret Behind A Happy Marriage is...

Arguing.
Yes. Arguing.
ARGUING!!!

Straight from Webster himself:

To Argue: verb ar·gue \ˈär-(ˌ)gyü\
intransitive verb 1: to give reasons for or against something : reason <argue for a new policy>
2: to contend or disagree in words : dispute <argue about money> transitive verb 1: to give evidence of : indicate argue his innocence> 2: to consider the pros and cons of : discuss <argue an issue> 3: to prove or try to prove by giving reasons : maintain argue his case> 4: to persuade by giving reasons : induce argue her out of going>

A-R-G-U-I-N-G

This is why we have been married 11 years and we still like each other and we still cherish each other and we still respect each other and protect each other. It is because we are willing to argue with each other.

Arguing isn't always about the destination of winning the argument, although often it can be, but it's also about the journey of discussing and maintaining our thoughts and opinions even when they differ from each other. It is a form of communication and when done properly can bring two people very close.

Now, don't hear me wrong. We haven't always been very good at it. There is a difference between arguing and quarreling and you can read more about this difference at the Alpha Dictionary if you are interested. Frankly, we haven't always been on the right side of that difference.

However, we've both been willing to learn. We've gotten better at arguing with each year that has passed. We've become more gentle, more constructive; more attentive. And as with all things you need lots of practice to get good at something. And trust me, we are still practicing.

But here's the thing, no one tells you
how important arguing is.

Certainly no one told me that the secret to a good marriage was to argue with your spouse. Our pastor who did marriage counseling with us before our wedding did give us marriage-saving advise. He advised us to never use the "D" word if we argued.

We took his advice which surely has saved us some headaches. Visit Simple Marriage or Hodges Podges and see for yourself the benefits of not using the "D" word.

But we were still clueless.

Before I got married I saw my newly wed friends arguing with their spouses and I thought they were doomed. Then I got married and argued with my spouse and thought we were doomed and we were just newlyweds ourselves.

We were clueless.

Even the Bible says you shouldn't argue. Philippians 2:14, simply put "Do everything without grumbling or arguing".

And I couldn't really recall ever seeing my parents or respected adults in my life argue.

But arguing is inevitable. It is going to happen in every marriage. So we embraced it. We had to learn to let each argument teach us how to argue more effectively the next time.

Over time we saw some arguments lead to productivity and sometimes we saw our arguments bear fruit.

If you remember even Moses (Exodus 32:9-14) and Abraham (Genesis 18:16-32) argued with God and God listened.

Here's some of what we've learned along the way to mastering this skill.

1. We had to learn what not-to-do when arguing

If I look back at the things we argued about in our first year of marriage, I see how trivial they were. Seriously, we got into an argument because I heard my husband tell someone that I slept later than him in the mornings and he had to make his own breakfast every morning.

The shock and horror that went through me when I heard this. Because I knew certainly, for sure, I woke up, on occasion, some mornings, maybe just the weekends, earlier than my husband and made him breakfast. And after hearing him say that I never made him breakfast infuriated me. I'm pretty sure I threatened to actually never make him breakfast for the rest of his married life and if he got married to have breakfast made for him each morning then he married the wrong girl!!! (Woo-wee! Glad I got that off my chest...again!)

But for real! This was one of our first married arguments. And it may or may not have involved a broken plate of eggs on the floor.

It was in that first year of marriage that I realized that I slammed doors! Not only did I slam doors, but I opened doors just so I could slam them! I didn't even know I did this until I got married because quite honestly no one had ever made me that mad before.

And I threw things! I remember my husband making me so mad that I looked down at the coffee table to see a cup of burning hot coffee and a remote control and knowing I was going to reach down, pick one of them up and throw it. Which one do you think I chose?

Well, after I envisioned my rug stained in coffee and all the glass I'd have to vacuum up I chose the remote control. However, I had failed to foresee the dent mark it would leave where it hit the wall and I failed to foresee my husbands reaction.

He looked at me and said, "great you just broke my favorite thing in the whole world.".

True story.

Honestly, it felt so good to throw things and slam doors, but I was admittedly ashamed, especially when it took me hours to to put the remote control back together so my husband could have his "favorite thing" back.

I learned that year that throwing things and slamming doors when arguing was not okay. It only elevated things and was not constructive.

My husband learned that year too. If you can just picture me, the non-Hardison-by-birth, standing quietly in the middle of the room while my husband, the Hardison-by-birth circled around me, squawking and squealing and puffing out his feathers and cockatooing and being loud and obnoxious and leaving no room for me to say a single word because my voice couldn't be heard over all the noise and chaos.

Fortunately for me sometimes he would squeal and squawk and cocatoo all over the house. And on one beautiful, sunny afternoon, I slipped out the front door and took the dogs for a walk while I listened to him squawking all through the neighborhood. When it finally got quiet, I went home and found him sulking on the couch. "Where did you go?"

And my husband learned that year he couldn't cockatoo at me anymore. It wasn't constructive and only elevated things.

We had to learn that some of the arguing we had witnessed and learned in our pasts was not good, nor healthy nor constructive for us and we had to learn what not to do.

2. We had to learn that sometimes
arguments needed to be gentle

The years passed by and we continued to argue.. And sometimes there were arguments even in happy times.

We got pregnant and we argued about who we should tell and when we should tell people. Somehow our neighbors found out we were pregnant before some of our family members. We had different philosophies on telling people what and when and how and it created arguments that taught us about each other.

Then there were the painful arguments about losing a pregnancy. One of us only knew how to morn privately and one of us only knew how to morn surrounded by friends and family. So we argued gently with each other in our sadness.

Then the possibility of facing infertility and more arguments came. Would we ever get pregnant? Should we do treatment if we can't get pregnant? Should we adopt if we can't get pregnant? We argued our different opinions with love and support and we saw something in ourselves we had not seen without the help from each other. We argued deep.

We lost friends and family members who went on from this world and we had no choice but to be gentle in our arguments about funerals and continuing to love the living in a new way and precious memories.

3. We had to learn to argue with respect
for each other

I can remember as clear as day when I first heard the words everyone who is married should hear at least once from their spouse, "It doesn't matter if I don't understand it or I think it is crazy. If it is important to you, then I will respect it because I love you."

I had asked my husband not to participate in something because of my own insecurities. I'm not even sure why other than it just made me uncomfortable and that's all I knew to tell him. With just a little hesitation, he finally said the words I needed to hear: if it was important to me that is all that mattered.

And just like that, my husband respected me in an argument letting me know I was more important to him than whatever it was that he didn't understand.

It took me a little longer to learn this same lesson when arguing. He would get upset about something I didn't understand so I would decide it wasn't worth the argument to me.

And I'd use those arguments as a free ticket to stay up all night, eat ice cream in bed and watch Sex In The City reruns while my husband lay awake discontent in the other room.

However, it was that sense of security that I felt when he was willing to not participate in something because of my insecurities, even when he didn't understand, that finally taught me to respect the issues that bothered him even when I didn't understand.

Now I just wait for him to go out of town so I can stay up all night. I've just traded the eat ice cream in bed for a few glass of wine in bed and instead of Sex In the City reruns I'm addicted to HGTV!

4. We've had to learn to let go and trust the other person when arguing

Eventually we had children.

And once our children were born we began to argue about child rearing. Our parenting styles were different. One was often too soft and one was often too firm.

I had to remind myself (and still do) that my husband is 50% of the parental role in this family. If I claim to have all 100% stake as parent then I would not be trusting the plan God put in place. Our children need their daddy even if I disagree with him at times.

My husband had asked one of our children to pick up some toys before going to bed one night and they refused to obey.

I told the same child they could go to bed and pick the toys up in the morning because it was painfully obvious to me they were just too tired to obey.

My husband demanded the toys be picked up that night and gave me a stern warning with that look stupid look in his eye, not to help.

That child sat next to the toys without moving a bone for hours. I didn't like it but I trusted my husband to do what he needed to do as their father.

The toys eventually got all picked up. And then I witnessed something beautiful. My husband curled up with his child in his arms who had obeyed him. And they bonded. They fell asleep in each others arms that night, both drained, but stronger as an entity.

But there are times we don't get it right.

There was that one time my husband argued that I wasn't sleep training one of our children to his standards. And so I let him do it and was shocked when I heard the child stop crying for a long period of time. I peeked in the room only to find him sitting as still as a statue scared his breath would wake the sleeping child while he sat INSIDE the crib with the sleeping child on his lap. There was nothing for me to do except laugh hysterically. He justified that his method worked and he got the baby to sleep, never mind that he was INSIDE the crib with her. After that night he trusted me to do the sleep training my way and I'm proud to report that I've never climbed inside my child's crib.

There are arguments about discipline and sleep training; homework, soccer and baseball, ballet and dance, television and computer time, appropriate movies, video games, room arrangement, food, vacations and the list goes on and on. And we have to trust each other to parent our children together.

5. We had to learn to argue with our guard down

It was just the other day as a matter of fact that we had an argument while getting ready for bed. It was this specific argument that made me realize all the arguing we've done over the past 11 years has actually been the key to deepening our marriage.

We were in the bathroom, both completely naked. (Yes, I'm sorry to give you such a visual because trust me, it's not pretty these days.) But it is how we were when this argument occurred.

In our complete nudity, my husband was getting out of the shower and I was stepping in it. We were unwinding and cleaning up from the grind and busyness of a long day's work. And in the midst of our nudity we began arguing about one of our investments that was causing a headache for us.

Should we cash it in and invest it in something else with less of a headache or do we continue to deal with the headache and uncertainty and risk for an unpromised future? We were on completely different sides of the issue and both upset that the other didn't agree.

It dawned on me in this moment of arguing, in the nude, so cordially, on a topic we both were passionate about, that we had come a long long way since that first argument over breakfast that ended in a broken dish and dirty eggs on the floor.

But you see, that first argument was so incredibly necessary to get us to where we are today. And we are only 11 years in with a LONG way to go.

We argue about faith and God, sex, money, children, time management, what to eat for dinner, and all the other important ingredients that make a good marriage good. We are two different people, from different backgrounds and different families and we are married to each other, living in the same house, sleeping in the same bed. We are one and yet, we are two.

We love each other enough to be willing to argue about our differences so that we can ultimately understand each other better and deeper. And I pray we always can and will.

So Raise Your Glasses

So raise your glasses with us as we celebrate 11 years of marriage. And next time you catch yourself saying to your spouse, "It's not worth the argument",

Stop and think...

Do you really not want to argue? Is your relationship not worth it? Can you not only learn something about your spouse from the argument but maybe something about yourself? Can the argument deepen your understanding of each other?

Or if you hear yourself tell your children, "Please stop arguing with me!" like I always do,

Stop and think...

Do you want your children to have their own voice and know that their opinions and feelings matter even when they are different from yours?

The "Code Of Conduct" from my kids school states that they are encouraged to "Appeal respectfully and courteously". The children know that they have a voice even when it differs from their teachers.

Isn't this what we want for them at home? Isn't this what we want for our marriages?

So raise your glasses with me and cheers to a new year and a new argument.

Happy Anniversary Babe. I love you forever and while I don't necessarily look forward to our next argument, I know it will be soon. I look forward to it being with you and the outcome from it. Let's bear some more fruit (and I don't mean children!) You're my bestie.

Are You "The Candy Keeper?" : What To Do With All That Candy!!!

11/3/2015

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Did your children dress up as Goblins and Ghosts, Princesses and Superheroes and come home with loads of candy?

Have you been deemed "The Candy Keeper" and you are the only one that holds the key (or can reach on top of the fridge) to the beloved candy bowl?

Are you now dealing with whining children begging you for a piece of candy every single minute of every single hour?

Then continue reading to get tips on what to do with all that candy and how to handle your new roll as "The Candy Keeper"!

I have given you three options that our family has tried over the years. The first option is fun and generous. The second option is my favorite. And the third option has its place and time!

Option 1: Donate or Trade

You can donate your candy to the troops overseas. Check out the Military Missions for packaging and mailing instructions. Operation Shoebox is another great resource.

To read more about how to donate your candy yourself please read here.
Operation Gratitude tells it all!

If you do not want to package and mail the candy yourself then check with your local health food store or dentist office. Many healthfood stores and dentist will trade your candy for a healthy treat or toy and they will mail it off for you to be donated!

We participated at Earth Fare a few years ago! My kids got a healthy treat as a trade off for their candy.

Donating the candy or trading it makes for a great lesson on "giving" and "sharing" with the upcoming holiday season! Not to mention once the candy is gone you will no longer need to be "The Candy Keeper"!

2. Separate and Dissipate (my personal favorite)

There are a few steps for Separating and Dissipating. If you follow the instructions below you will find when your candy is separated it begins to disappear much quicker and your job as "The Candy Keeper" will be over in no time.

Step One: Determine the trash

Remove all the candy you don't want your children eating and throw it away.

For me, this is typically anything too sticky that will end up on my furniture, tables, chairs and walls...or worse stuck in their teeth. Things like taffy. I also throw away the hard candy such as jolly ranchers and jaw breakers. Basically anything that can get lodged in the throat of a 2 year old. I include the "bubble gum" in my throw away pile as well. My kids LOVE gum, but this extra sugary bubble gum serves no purpose for me.

WARNING: You might feel a sense of guilt throwing it away.
Push through. You do not need to feel guilty.
If you have a compost pile in your back yard then these items will make great compost!

Step Two: Get your school snacks

Take anything that is in a decent sized package and store it away for lunch boxes and school snacks as the weeks go on. This includes packages of cookies, animal crackers, fruit snacks and anything else you deem snack appropriate.

Store it in your pantry up high and only take one out at a time when you are preparing lunches.

This will also cut your grocery bill down by a few dollars for those few weeks of snacks you will not have to buy!

As a matter of fact my kids all took a pack of Oreos for their school snack today and they were thrilled because they usually do not get Oreos for snack!

Step Three: Get your bribe and keep it close

Weed through the candy and put all the lollipops and place in a separate pile.

I like to keep them in my purse and car so they'll be easy to reach when I get desperate and need to bribe a child to be quiet or stop crying.

I've been known to pull a sucker out of my purse at church and stick it in a kids mouth and I'm not ashamed!

Lollipops have always been my go-to bribe with my kids, so sorry candy bowl, these are all mine.

Step Four: Turn sweet into sweet and salty

This is my favorite step because I love trail mix. This is where I win at Halloween time!

Empty out the contents of all M&M packages into a zip lock bag (and I like adding the milk duds too).

Be certain to throw all packaging away...at the very bottom of the garbage so your children do not see the empty wrappers!

Then combine said items with any nuts and raisins that you may already have in your pantry. My personal favorite is cashews, almonds, pistachio's, craisins and raisins!

We love a good trail mix in our household and this will give you a healthy-ish snack for weeks to come!

Step Five: Turn the Orange into Green

Find all the chocolate that does not have a "Halloween" logo on it. Place this new found chocolate stash in a zip lock bag and hide it all the way in the back of the freezer.

As all the orange from Halloween starts to all fade away and all the Green begins to appear for Christmas this frozen chocolate will stay hidden in the back of the freezer.

Do not take it out again until Christmas Eve.
The night before Christmas you simply divide it up among all the kids Christmas stockings. Walla! No midnight run for candy. (Not that that I have ever actually forgotten candy for the stockings before and had to run out at midnight!)

The orange Reese's wrappers will be extra green bills in your wallet when you're not having to buy MORE candy at Christmas time.

Step 6: Let them have the rest

Now whatever is left over they can have. You can decide how they have it. You can either continue reading and follow Option #3 below, which we have done and works well.

Or you can ration the remaining candy out. I like to allow them to pick two pieces of candy after each meal until it is gone. If they eat their entire breakfast, they get two pieces. Same goes for lunch and dinner.

With this formula: 2 pieces per child times four children times 3 meals a day means that we will eliminate 24 pieces of candy a day until it is gone. If my estimate is correct that we have about 100 pieces of candy left at this point then I will only need to be "The Candy Keeper" for 4 1/2 more days.

3. Just say "YES"

I'm sure you will judge me for this method of dealing with Halloween Candy and that is okay.

Judge away.

I tend to use this method when we receive birthday party goody bags, or with Easter basket candy and other similar times throughout the year when the children come home with an exaggerated amount of candy.

I tell them to get all their candy, dump it out and eat as much of it as they want. I give them a time limit based on how much candy their is. I would estimate that 10 minutes is a good standard time limit.

When the time is up, the remaining amount that they cannot eat will get thrown away afterwards. However in my experience there really isn't that much left worth saving anyway. It's all trash after they've opened each piece and licked it all.

The reason I use this method and I actually really like this method is because they are so focused on getting through all the candy they tend to take one bite of each thing or even just a lick and then they move on to the next piece. They don't even eat it.

And this method is great because I don't have to spend the next several days or weeks as "The Candy Keeper". I hate that title anyway. I have enough jobs as a mom I don't need to add "The Candy keeper" to my resume. And I tell my kids "no" enough without having to always say "no" to the candy.

So with this method, you just say "yes". And you only have to say "yes" once and your job as "The Candy Keeper" is over!

WARNING: You will find a little backlash with this method. You will have children or at least one child who will come to you the next day and ask for a piece of their candy. You will simply have to remind them that they ate it all the day before and it is gone.

You may get a "That's not fair" or "I didn't finish it" or "You shouldn't have let me do that". But it will be short lived and they will move on to other activities...eventually.

You will also have the child who gets a tummy ache and begins to feel sick. This too shall pass quickly. If you're lucky they will stop liking candy all together after eating so much at once and your job as "The Candy Keeper" may be over not just for this year but for all the years to come...if you're lucky. I have not experienced that yet by using this method.

Now Your Turn
Leave me a comment and let me know if you have tired any of these methods to release yourself of "The Candy Keeper". How did it work? I'd love to hear of other ideas too that I haven't' thought of yet. Please share...

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Eggnog Pancakes

And so, I decided to make Eggnog Pancakes

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The reason why I put chocolate chips in pancakes

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But here's the thing, no one tells you
how important arguing is.

1. We had to learn what not-to-do when arguing

2. We had to learn that sometimes
arguments needed to be gentle

3. We had to learn to argue with respect
for each other

4. We've had to learn to let go and trust the other person when arguing

5. We had to learn to argue with our guard down

So Raise Your Glasses

Happy Anniversary Babe. I love you forever and while I don't necessarily look forward to our next argument, I know it will be soon. I look forward to it being with you and the outcome from it. Let's bear some more fruit (and I don't mean children!) You're my bestie.

Are You "The Candy Keeper?" : What To Do With All That Candy!!!

Did your children dress up as Goblins and Ghosts, Princesses and Superheroes and come home with loads of candy?

Option 1: Donate or Trade

2. Separate and Dissipate (my personal favorite)

Step One: Determine the trash

Step Two: Get your school snacks

Step Three: Get your bribe and keep it close

Step Four: Turn sweet into sweet and salty

Step Five: Turn the Orange into Green

Step 6: Let them have the rest

3. Just say "YES"

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Happy Thanksgiving (Toddler STYLE)

Making food memories and "thankful" memories, because let's face it, sometimes other memories with children on Thanksgiving are just not worth keeping.

Eggnog Pancakes

And so, I decided to make Eggnog Pancakes

Here is what you will need: 3 Ingredients

Directions

The reason why I put chocolate chips in pancakes

Hope you enjoy some Eggnog Pancakes yourself! If you've made them before or do something different, please comment on your Eggnog Pancake secrets! Or if you try this for the first time, leave me a comment and let me know what you think!

Mid Century Side Table

Marriage Made of Steel: The Secret to a Happy Marriage

How we got here: A powerful secret to a happy marriage

So what is it you ask? Is it...

The Real Secret Behind A Happy Marriage is...

A-R-G-U-I-N-G

But here's the thing, no one tells youhow important arguing is.

1. We had to learn what not-to-do when arguing

2. We had to learn that sometimes arguments needed to be gentle

3. We had to learn to argue with respectfor each other

4. We've had to learn to let go and trust the other person when arguing

5. We had to learn to argue with our guard down

So Raise Your Glasses

Happy Anniversary Babe. I love you forever and while I don't necessarily look forward to our next argument, I know it will be soon. I look forward to it being with you and the outcome from it. Let's bear some more fruit (and I don't mean children!) You're my bestie.

Are You "The Candy Keeper?" : What To Do With All That Candy!!!

Did your children dress up as Goblins and Ghosts, Princesses and Superheroes and come home with loads of candy?

Option 1: Donate or Trade

2. Separate and Dissipate (my personal favorite)

Step One: Determine the trash

Step Two: Get your school snacks

Step Three: Get your bribe and keep it close

Step Four: Turn sweet into sweet and salty

Step Five: Turn the Orange into Green

Step 6: Let them have the rest

3. Just say "YES"

Now Your TurnLeave me a comment and let me know if you have tired any of these methods to release yourself of "The Candy Keeper". How did it work? I'd love to hear of other ideas too that I haven't' thought of yet. Please share...

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But here's the thing, no one tells you
how important arguing is.

2. We had to learn that sometimes
arguments needed to be gentle

3. We had to learn to argue with respect
for each other

Now Your Turn
Leave me a comment and let me know if you have tired any of these methods to release yourself of "The Candy Keeper". How did it work? I'd love to hear of other ideas too that I haven't' thought of yet. Please share...